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Gaslighting: Recognizing and Coping with Emotional Abuse

The blog post discusses gaslighting, a form of emotional abuse where one person manipulates another by making them doubt their own perceptions and memory of events. The post highlights the signs of gaslighting, such as feeling confused or being blamed for things that aren't your fault and offers coping strategies, including seeking support and practicing self-care. The post emphasizes the importance of recognizing gaslighting and seeking help if you suspect you're being gaslit.

Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that can leave victims feeling confused, anxious, and even questioning their own sanity. This manipulative behavior is used by people to control and dominate others, often in personal relationships, but also in professional or political settings. It’s important to recognize the signs of gaslighting and seek support if you suspect that you’re being gaslit.

What is Gaslighting?

Gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that’s named after the 1944 movie “Gaslight,” in which a man tries to drive his wife insane by making her doubt her own perceptions and memory of events. Gaslighting can take many forms, but it usually involves a pattern of behavior that includes lying, denying, and twisting the truth. It’s a way for one person to control and manipulate another by making them doubt their own perceptions and memories.

Signs of Gaslighting

The signs of gaslighting can be subtle, but they can also be very damaging. Here are some common signs of gaslighting to watch out for:

1. Constantly being told that your memory or perception of events is wrong.

2. Feeling confused, disoriented, or unsure of yourself.

3. Feeling like you’re going crazy or losing your mind.

4. Being told that you’re too sensitive or emotional.

5. Being blamed for things that aren’t your fault.

6. Having your words or actions twisted or misinterpreted.

7. Feeling like you’re walking on eggshells around the person who is gaslighting you.

8. Feeling like you’re never good enough or can never do anything right.

9. Being isolated from friends and family members who could provide support or validation.

Coping with Gaslighting

If you’re experiencing gaslighting, it’s important to seek support and take steps to protect yourself. Here are some ways to cope with gaslighting:

-Trust your instincts: If something doesn’t feel right, trust your gut. Gaslighting can make you doubt your own perceptions and memories, but it’s important to trust yourself and your own feelings.

-Seek support: Talk to a trusted friend or family member about what you’re experiencing. A therapist or counselor can also provide support and help you develop coping strategies.

-Set boundaries: Gaslighters often try to control their victims by isolating them from others. Setting clear boundaries can help you maintain your independence and protect yourself from further emotional abuse.

-Keep a record: Gaslighters often try to make their victims doubt their own memories of events. Keeping a journal or record of conversations and events can help you stay grounded and avoid being manipulated.

-Practice self-care: Take care of yourself by getting enough rest, eating well, and engaging in activities that bring you joy. Self-care can help you cope with the stress and anxiety of gaslighting.


In conclusion, gaslighting is a form of emotional abuse that can be difficult to recognize, but it’s important to seek support if you suspect that you’re being gaslit. Recognizing the signs of gaslighting and taking steps to protect yourself can help you maintain your sense of self and protect your emotional well-being. Remember, you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, and gaslighting is never okay.

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